“Love is a many splendored thing. Love lifts us up where we belong. All you need is love”

– Moulin Rouge.

But is that still true these days?

moulin rouge

February is the month of love and it got us thinking – how has love changed over the years?

Love used to be depicted as this grand gesture and as Ed Sheeran sang in Nancy Mulligan:

“She and I went on the run
Don’t care about religion
I’m gonna marry the woman I love
Down by the Wexford border”
ed sheeran winking
There is this notion that love is forbidden but it worked out against all odds and now they have “twenty-two grand kids now growing old.” This type of romance is all over – or was all over – literature and films. (Had to say ‘films‘ instead of ‘movies‘ because the word ‘literature‘ demands respect and the use of formal language.) If you don’t believe us, here is the evidence:

1. Romeo and Juliet

(against all odds, family feuds, etc.) : To be fair, Shakespeare had a thing for these difficult romances.

2. Titanic

(There really was enough space for Jack on the floating door. But this is another topic on its own.)
meme about titanic

3. Jane Eyre

Everything was good and dandy and then on the wedding day everyone finds out he has a wife locked up in the mansion. Fast-forward a bit, Rochester goes blind, Jane goes through a V rocky patch but they end up marrying anyways.

4.Pearl Harbor

Love triangles. The beautiful Kate Beckinsale is in love with one guy and then he goes to war and is presumed dead. Then she falls in love with his childhood bestie and falls preggos and then the first lover returns from the dead and the other lover dies and she ends up marrying the other lover and having the second lover’s child and naming the boy after him. PHEW. What a mouthful. #tearjerker

5. Pride and Prejudice

(LORD, HAVE MERCY. Why do we find Darcy hot? In all the world he shouldn’t be, but his character gives us all kinds of feels.) Who even uses the word ardently? *sigh*
Mr Darcy Pride and Prejudice
Anyways. You get the picture. Although extremely dramatized, some of it rings a bell. Just in a waaaaaay different way. These days we are bombarded with a different type of love/drama.
Everything has become faster and instant gratification has become our number one priority. No more sending letters through the mail or calling your lover once every blue moon when it’s your time slot on the telephone. We simply swipe and start chatting to a potential match.
tinder app

Romance today

These days we are excited when we get a DM from the guy you met at the bar over the weekend – who says romance is dead? The form it arrives in has changed, sure, but it is still a way of showing interest. And of course, Notebook really did remind us that letters are actually the way to do it if you want to get a fat snog in the rain – but postcards are expensive and ain’t nobody got time for that. That’s the whole point.
the notebook

TV Shows’ influence

Shows, such as The Bachelor/(ette), Love Island and Bachelor in Paradise also supports the Fast and Furious: romance edition. Date 25 guys and get engaged to one bloke after dating for 3 months (while dating other peeps as well and saying goodbye to your second best boyf only a few moments before you are proposed to). Don’t get us wrong. We are the FIRST to binge watch these series. But is it sustainable?

Why we get our hopes up

Are we still stuck in the mindset where we want a guy to make grand gestures like the fella from The Great Gatsby – throwing massive, lucrative parties in the hopes of Daisy showing up? Kind of… but oh, how it has changed. “Gatsbying” is now a term which describes you snapchatting / insta-storying or posting pics of yourself at a party in the hopes of your crush seeing it. (Look it up, it’s a real thing). Now knowing this, would you not say: same-same, but different?
the great gatsby

Change is inevitable

So maybe this could be our conclusion: LOVE IS NOT DEAD, love is just delivered in a different way / platform / package. Our romance novels may be shorter and straight to the point but it’s still there; hidden in DM’s, WhatsApp messages and the “Let me buy you a shot!”  BUT it is still there. Times change, so obviously, romance must adapt. But it certainly did not die.
proposal gone wrong

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