You feel anxious, but it doesn’t necessarily mean you have an anxiety disorder.
You feel sad, but it doesn’t necessarily mean you are depressed.
You get mood swings, but it doesn’t necessarily mean you are bipolar.
You get angry, but it doesn’t necessarily mean you have anger management issues.
Anxiety is a part of most people’s lives these days and it’s so easy to label ourselves and heighten our humane symptoms and assume we have a disorder. The mind is the most powerful tool. What we put into our mind on repeat, becomes the outcome of our life. This relates to the power of affirmation.
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When we feel anxious, it is because our body is reacting too harshly to our “fight or flight” instinct and we tend to react irrationally. It is common for physiologists or psychiatrists to diagnose us with a name of an “illness” and then prescribe our drugs in a bottle or demand weekly check-ups to “talk about our feelings” which causes stress alone for a lot of us! A lot of people feel uncomfortable going to a psychologist which is acceptable because who wants to open up to a total stranger from 1pm-2pm on a Tuesday right ?? This seems to be the cause that a lot of people don’t deal with what is going on in their mind and it becomes an ongoing whirlwind.
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Which is the reason that we have put together a “self-help” toolbox that can give you coping methods to explore on your own in your own time, in your own space.
  • Keep a journal. Document moments that make you feel happy and at peace. Work on repeating those moments.
  • Keep a “scribble book” use it to figure out your thoughts and feelings. Sometimes laying something out on paper helps us think clearly about a situation
  • Take a fresh look at things from a new perspective. Sometimes when we focus too hard on something, we miss out on the bigger picture.
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  • Keep a self-help book next to your bed. Read a few pages of it every day to keep you on track.
  • Keep it real. Don’t put pressure on yourself to be like people you see on Instagram or in magazines. Roses and Sunflowers are such different flowers but they are both beautiful !!
  • Find a hobby that makes you happy. Take up free online courses, watch youtube tutorials, do DIY projects, anything!
Read a book
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  • Plan in advance and try not to procrastinate! Listen to self help Ted Talks-

  • DECLUTTER- It truly makes you feel so much more at ease and lighter! Throw out old clothes, reorganize your cupboard (check out
  • For some amazing tips on a minimalistic life!). Delete unnecessary contacts, delete photos, delete music you don’t like anymore, mane your phone display neater, delete apps, organize your stationery. Organize everything and anything to help you think clearer.
  • Listen to self-help podcasts! We are loving Kalyn Nicholson’s coffee talks at the moment! as well as “The anxiety slayer”
  • Set goals to focus on to keep yourself driving towards a purpose.
  • Give yourself pep talks in the mirror. Remind yourself that YOU are a BOSS BABE and you can do anything that you set your mind to!
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  • Download a bomb self love music playlist and play it on repeat in the traffic!
  • Take a break from researching a topic you’ve been over-researching. Go outside and get some fresh air.
  • Cuddle a baby or a pet. (let’s be honest…nobody has ever felt sad or anxious while doing one of these)
  • If a mistake you’ve made is bothering you, make an action plan for how you won’t repeat it in the future. Write three brief bullet points. Order and self-awareness help us feel more relaxed.
  • Ask yourself if you’re catastrophizing, eg, thinking that something would be a disaster when it might be unpleasant but not necessarily a disaster.
  • Forgive yourself for not handing a situation in an ideal way, including interpersonal situations. What’s the best thing you can do to move forward in a positive way now?
  • If someone else’s behavior has triggered anxiety for you, try accepting that you may never know the complete reason and background behind the person’s behavior and you should try and not take it personally.
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  • Recognize if your anxiety is being caused by someone suggesting a change or change of plans. Understand if you tend to react to changes or unexpected events as if they are threats. Realize that it is not a threat.
  • Remind yourself that everyone experiences anxious moments. A lot of the time we make ourselves more anxious because we don’t like the feeling of being anxious and uncertain.
  • Expect the plans to change. A lot of us get frustrated when the plans change because we cannot control what is happening.
  • Accept that there is a gap between your real self and your ideal self. (This is the case for pretty much everybody.) Use that as your motivation instead of a worry.
  • Question your social comparisons. For example, is comparing yourself only to the most successful person you know very fair or representative?
  • Keep a gratitude journal and write 3 things that you’re grateful for every day.
  • • Take a day for yourself. Sometimes we are just overwhelmed and overworked and our bodies need a break. This is when you need to listen to your body and recharge the batteries.
  • Do a task 15% slower than usual. Allow yourself to savor not rushing. It’s normal to rush tasks to get them done sooner or to see the final result that you’re so eager for, but rushing things will create unnecessary stress that could affect your work ethic.
  • Go to a yoga class, or do a couple of yoga poses in the comfort of your home or garden.
  • Take up meditation workshops if you find that it works for you!
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  • Go for a run or a bike ride. Get those endorphins flowing ladies! You will feel so good about yourself afterward.
  • Go with your gut feeling, it’s usually right.
  • Find something on YouTube or a series that makes you laugh out loud and let go!
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  • Look back on the anxiety-provoking situation you’re in from a time point in the future, e.g., six months from now. Does the problem seem smaller when you view it from further away? “If it won’t matter in 6 months, don’t spend more than 5 minutes worrying about it”
  • If you rarely back out of commitments out of the need to please everyone and feel overwhelmed by your to-do list, try giving yourself permission to say you can no longer do something you’ve previously agreed to do.
  • Start the task that you have been putting off. You will feel better.
  • Give yourself enough time to get to places and do tasks. When you rush, you create unnecessary stress.”
  • Check in with yourself. Notice how you are feeling, what has been making you anxious and how you can eliminate or deal with those factors.
  • Jot down three things you worried about in the past that didn’t come to pass.
  • Jot down three things that you worried about in the past that did occur, but weren’t nearly as bad as you imagined.
  • Do a form of exercise you haven’t done in the last six months. Try out parkour, skateboarding, boxing, anything !) Change the scenery up, workout on the beach or at your favorite park.
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While we understand that many people feel that seeing a psychologist works better for them, that’s okay! It is all about realizing what works for you at different times and situations. Just remember you are not alone and there is always a solution.
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Helplines if you need an extra hand:
And then one day I decided that hurry and stress were no longer going to be part of my life. Stress is self-created; I decided to stop manufacturing it. We can choose an internal calm and joy even amid the chaos.” – Brendon Burchard
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